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August 21, 2015

Do You Play Favorites?

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Another repost but one I wanted some new comments on. So please….comment away because it all counts for Comments for a Cause.brownkids4

I watched Anderson Cooper’s show the other day because I think he is just neat. I love his giggle. And I have started to really like his show. He covers interesting topics that draw me in. And at 4 pm I seem to be ready to take a break and sit down and veg out for an hour before I start dinner.

The other day his topic was Favorite Children and how being favored ( or not favored) affects children. I found it pretty interesting and eye opening as he had mothers on there who admitted ON TELEVISION that they had a favorite child and treated them differently. One mother even had a “competition” mentality where she asked the children around the dinner table who deserved to be the favorite and made a game out of it. I was frankly a little appalled shocked. I never would have thought that that was a healthy thing to do.

But it got me to thinking. Growing up we always kidded my mom that my brother Mark was her favorite. Now I don’t really think that but he was so darn cute and had such a great sense of humor and could get away with things. You know the type. I remember one time my mom saying as she laughed at some infraction “I may be laughing but I am really upset with what you did”. Yep, that was Mark. But I never felt deprived of affection or love so I don’t think he really was her favorite.

My boys have a healthy competition going. Sometimes one of them will steal my Facebook status and state that they are the favorite. I really don’t think I have a favorite though each of them would probably argue with that. They both are such different personalities that it is hard to compare them which is a good thing. And as they grow older I love them each more and more which I did not think was possible because they are both becoming such neat young men.

So back to the show. Supposedly there are 5 questions to ask that are clues that “you” are mom’s favorite. Here they are:

1. Do you have more pictures of one child than of the others?
2. Are you more involved with one child’s extracurricular activities?
3. Did you spend the same amount of money on each child’s birthday or Christmas presents?
4. Do you contribute the same amount to each child’s college fund?
5. Do you find one child easier to be around than the other(s)?
So what do you think? Do YOU have a favorite? Are you brave enough to say so?

The "kids" with my mom on her 80th birthday.

The “kids” with my mom on her 80th birthday.

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  1. ozzieohlonemanthinktank
    August 21, 2015 at 06:35 am

    I have tried very hard in my life to treat my son and daughter equally. Equally is sometimes hard to do because of different interests, unique situations and age differences but I feel that I am fair, compassionate and honest with both to the best of my abilities.

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 21, 2015 at 05:42 pm

      I am sure you have done a fabulous job, Ozzie. It just seem like some people do favor one child over the other and that makes me kind of sad. I think each child has their own special qualities and should be recognized for those.

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  2. Darlene
    August 21, 2015 at 07:16 am

    I think we have favourite things about each child. I have a daughter and a son, they are 8 years apart so there has never been any competition. My aunt who has 11 children said they are all different and she loves them all the same amount just for different reasons. Of course I was mom and dad´s favourite, but I was their first and the only girl. My brother´s think it is only fair! LOL (You were all so cute!)

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 21, 2015 at 05:41 pm

      I think that what you believe is how most people believe. It is interesting to think about it, though.

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  3. Dianna Suntken
    August 21, 2015 at 08:01 am

    I used to always say that my brothers were the favorites. One was the first born and the other the “baby”! I guess that made me the dreaded misunderstood “middle” child, lol! My brothers would argue and say, “no, you are the spoiled one, because you are the only girl”! I guess if we were all spoiled, that makes us blessed and I am grateful for the parents that raised us! Isn’t the family equation a funny thing!!

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 21, 2015 at 05:36 pm

      Yes, family equations are really interesting at times. Just when I think that I have it all figured out and that we are “normal” I get a glimpse that it isn’t that way. 🙂

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  4. Helen Brown
    August 21, 2015 at 08:18 am

    My husband and I were so happy when we were able to have our four children and we did not have a special one. All four of them were different and we were very proud of each one. I have always felt that I had four of the best kids ever. Each one is very special .

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 21, 2015 at 05:34 pm

      I was born into a fabulous family. Can’t even imagine being a part of any other family.

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  5. Minnesota Prairie Roots
    August 21, 2015 at 08:26 am

    I think at different times for different reasons I feel closer to one of my three than the other. That doesn’t make one a favorite over the other.

    That said, I do know that the youngest “got away” with more than the daughters. By the time he was born, I was more relaxed in parenting. But I was also more tired given I was nearly 38 when he was born.

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 21, 2015 at 05:34 pm

      That makes total sense. I think for me both of the boys are so very different that it is difficult to compare them and I can’t have a favorite. 🙂

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  6. J to the osh
    August 21, 2015 at 10:20 am

    Anderson Cooper is a vampire… or at least he looks like one. What an interesting subject, as we don’t have kids I don’t have any real experience with this. Although if I were a betting man, I’d put money on my sister’s chances at being the fave.

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 21, 2015 at 05:32 pm

      You cracked me up. He is not a vampire. And how could you not be the favorite???

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  7. Gibber
    August 21, 2015 at 09:32 pm

    It can also be a form of abuse actually. It was in my family situation and I’ve heard of many others. My sister was the favourited child. It’s abuse to here too though.

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 23, 2015 at 06:28 pm

      You are very correct in that and I am sorry for those that have felt it in the negative way. That is NEVER a good thing.

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  8. segmation
    August 21, 2015 at 11:08 pm

    Playing favorites is not a good thing for the one that wasn’t the favorite. Do you agree? http://www.segmation.com/blog.

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 23, 2015 at 06:27 pm

      I never felt that I was treated any differently than my siblings so that was good but there are times when it would be very hurtful for the one that wasn’t the favorite. I totally agree.

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  9. Dianna
    August 23, 2015 at 03:51 pm

    I’m not sure the “more pictures” question is really a fair barometer. Although I just have the one son, I know from other families that the eldest child always seems to have more photos taken of him/her.

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 23, 2015 at 06:26 pm

      That is a very good point. I doubt it is favoritism but more tiredness! 🙂

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  10. Rorybore
    August 25, 2015 at 03:02 pm

    Nope, no favourites here. they all equally annoy me daily. LOL
    seriously though, mine are like your boys; they are somewhat the same in most things, but they all have that little something different that makes them unique and I love that about all 3 of them. I would say the youngest probably does tend to get away with more… but I think that is typical with the “baby” of the family. but it’s not because she’s the favourite…. the older two have just worn us down. haha

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  11. Alicia Schmitt
    August 28, 2015 at 07:23 am

    Wow, very different perspectives. I grew up in a mixed family. I was not my step dad’s favorite but that was because my mom and I were so close, he thought I was “undermining” him and he was jealous of our relationship. My mom and I are like sisters. She still lectures me and kicks my butt like any mom should but we are so much alike we just get each other. That being said, she never treated my other sisters differently. Yes we had the classic, the youngest gets away with murder but nothing beyond that. She spent the same on all of us for birthdays and Christmas, however my stepdad obviously favored them so they got to do more things than I did when I was their age. This didn’t really bother me because I was 8 years older than the second oldest (their first child) and I was older and thought I got to do more things, they were just different things. 🙂 I love my sisters and wouldn’t change them for the world, we each have contributed to our lives so much. 🙂

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    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      August 28, 2015 at 07:53 am

      Family dynamics are so interesting, aren’t they? I can only imagine how close you and your mom are and how that made your step dad a bit jealous. I can totally see that but how wonderful that you and your sisters are so close. That is something that is an absolute joy!

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      1. Alicia Schmitt
        August 28, 2015 at 07:56 am

        Yes definitely!

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  12. donnahup
    September 02, 2015 at 11:04 am

    That’s because I’m your favorite, right? 😉

    Reply
    1. Beth Ann Chiles
      September 02, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Hmmm……my boys might be upset with that so I will take the fifth.

      Reply

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