Another repost but one I wanted some new comments on. So please….comment away because it all counts for Comments for a Cause.
I watched Anderson Cooper’s show the other day because I think he is just neat. I love his giggle. And I have started to really like his show. He covers interesting topics that draw me in. And at 4 pm I seem to be ready to take a break and sit down and veg out for an hour before I start dinner.
The other day his topic was Favorite Children and how being favored ( or not favored) affects children. I found it pretty interesting and eye opening as he had mothers on there who admitted ON TELEVISION that they had a favorite child and treated them differently. One mother even had a “competition” mentality where she asked the children around the dinner table who deserved to be the favorite and made a game out of it. I was frankly a little appalled shocked. I never would have thought that that was a healthy thing to do.
But it got me to thinking. Growing up we always kidded my mom that my brother Mark was her favorite. Now I don’t really think that but he was so darn cute and had such a great sense of humor and could get away with things. You know the type. I remember one time my mom saying as she laughed at some infraction “I may be laughing but I am really upset with what you did”. Yep, that was Mark. But I never felt deprived of affection or love so I don’t think he really was her favorite.
My boys have a healthy competition going. Sometimes one of them will steal my Facebook status and state that they are the favorite. I really don’t think I have a favorite though each of them would probably argue with that. They both are such different personalities that it is hard to compare them which is a good thing. And as they grow older I love them each more and more which I did not think was possible because they are both becoming such neat young men.
So back to the show. Supposedly there are 5 questions to ask that are clues that “you” are mom’s favorite. Here they are:
1. Do you have more pictures of one child than of the others?
2. Are you more involved with one child’s extracurricular activities?
3. Did you spend the same amount of money on each child’s birthday or Christmas presents?
4. Do you contribute the same amount to each child’s college fund?
5. Do you find one child easier to be around than the other(s)?
So what do you think? Do YOU have a favorite? Are you brave enough to say so?
The “kids” with my mom on her 80th birthday.
