Grief is a funny thing. It slips up on me just when I least expect it but I think that is pretty typical. You just have to go with it.
Chris and I are at the beach this week for a very Covid safe get away. Lysol wipes, hand sanitizer, masks, Hello Fresh and Door Dash delivery and just basically doing beach walks and not out with anyone. It’s been pretty wonderful even if the weather has been less than wonderful. That really doesn’t matter as long as I can see the ocean from my condo.
I have a hanging toiletry kit and every time I use it I get hit with a memory and a little wave of grief.
If you look in that top pouch you can see a little bunny. That was one of the many bunnies that I gave my mom over the years. When we packed up her stuff before her move to Memory Lane a couple years ago I took a lot of her little bunnies. This was one that I just kind of stuck in this bag and every time I travel I see it.
When she lived in her villa at Copeland Oaks I was able to go visit her quite often and I would stay for 5 days or so and just spend time with her. One of the things I did was leave hidden notes and little bunnies all over her house before I left. She would find them weeks after I left and always laughed about them and how her collection was growing due to her daughters.
It was a silly little thing I did but it was something that made memories. I am so grateful for those. This week I have had another friend lose her mom and another friend struggling with the further decline of her mom and it is just difficult. As we get older we “know” that we will lose our parents but it does not make it any easier.
I am so happy for these memories and for little bunny reminders that pop up to give me a little nudge to remember those good memories.
Do you have anything like these little bunnies that remind you of a loved one when you see them? I would love to hear all about it so leave me a comment and Comment for a Cause for Copeland Oaks Library.
