I watched Anderson Cooper’s show the other day because I think he is just neat. I love his giggle. And I have started to really like his show. He covers interesting topics that draw me in. And at 4 pm I seem to be ready to take a break and sit down and veg out for an hour before I start dinner.
The other day his topic was Favorite Children and how being favored ( or not favored) affects children. I found it pretty interesting and eye opening as he had mothers on there who admitted ON TELEVISION that they had a favorite child and treated them differently. One mother even had a “competition” mentality where she asked the children around the dinner table who deserved to be the favorite and made a game out of it. I was frankly a little
appalled shocked. I never would have thought that that was a healthy thing to do.
But it got me to thinking. Growing up we always kidded my mom that my brother Mark was her favorite. Now I don’t really think that but he was so darn cute and had such a great sense of humor and could get away with things. You know the type! I remember one time my mom saying as she laughed at some infraction “I may be laughing but I am really upset with what you did”. Yep, that was Mark. But I never felt deprived of affection or love so I don’t think he really was her favorite.
My boys have a healthy competition going. Sometimes one of them will steal my Facebook status and state that they are the favorite. I really don’t think I have a favorite though each of them would probably argue with that. They both are such different personalities that it is hard to compare them which is a good thing. And as they grow older I love them each more and more which I did not think was possible because they are both becoming such neat young men.
So back to the show. Supposedly there are 5 questions to ask that are clues that “you” are mom’s favorite. Here they are:
- Do you have more pictures of one child than of the others?
- Are you more involved with one child’s extracurricular activities?
- Did you spend the same amount of money on each child’s birthday or Christmas presents?
- Do you contribute the same amount to each child’s college fund?
- Do you find one child easier to be around than the other(s)?
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