Life has a way of throwing some curves now and then and lately I have felt that I have quite a few balls in the air. I am juggling quite a few things and even though none of them are work related they are still very real. I can quickly become overwhelmed and as I talked to my sister the other night I admitted that fact. I am. So instead of dwelling on the “things” going on I decided I needed to take my own advice. Advice that I wrote 3 years ago but that is still relevant. These are ways I use to deal with the challenges of life.
First of all as a Christian I pray. I pray for calm. I pray for positivity. I pray for the situation. And then I pray some more. There is no limit to prayer and that is what gives me the most comfort both in times of trial AND in times of great thankfulness.
Acknowledge that there will be some sleepless nights but don’t allow that to continue for too long. It is not healthy and the body needs to rest. My natural reaction to bad news is to toss and turn at night. Even if there is absolutely nothing that “I” can do about the situation my mind does not rest and especially at nighttime it wrestles with trying to come up with an answer. Once I realize that “I” can’t solve it my body responds and sleep comes. But in my life it is a reality that sleep will be difficult. I have often taken natural sleeping aids to assist even if it is only a cup of chamomile tea. It relaxes.
Be able to draw on history to move on. I am always able to look back on things that have happened in the past and say “hey–you know what? That WAS a horrible time but I made it through it to the other side and I am a stronger person now”. At the time it may be difficult to see beyond but it is important to understand that this setback or issue is in the moment. There is another day coming.
Allow yourself time to grieve the loss, the change, the disappointment. Don’t try to hold it all in. Holding it in is not healthy for you or for anyone else around you. One day it will come out and probably not in a positive way.
Surround yourself with trusted friends and a support system who will let you be who and what you need to be as you work through your situation. Positive folks only need apply for this position because who needs Debbie Downer when you are down yourself? You know who those people are that support you in all things—go to them and even if you can’t share specifics, share that you need support. If they are who you think they are they will be there for you.
Breathe. Simply sit and concentrate on breathing slowly and deliberately. It is a natural calmer.
Eat chocolate. No joke here. Dark chocolate especially holds great value when it comes to being a stress reliever. Cocoa beans are rich in flavonoids, an antioxidant, which counteract the anxiety-producing hormone, cortisol. A little bit will do you.
Take a bath with relaxing scents around you. Nothing chills me out faster than a nice soak in a hot steamy bath with candles glowing all around me. Don’t knock it until you have tried it.
Don’t be static. Get up, do something physical if you can. Go for a walk. Clean a closet. If that is too much to tackle start small and clean a drawer. Just the distraction and sense of accomplishment can make a huge difference.
Know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities. Embrace that and repeat it out loud numerous times to allow yourself to fully accept that you can get through this situation and you WILL! Keep calm and press on. You’ve got this!
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Great advice! Going through stuff here too! So thank you. Praying for you, dear friend!
Keeping you in prayer, sweet Virginia!
Thinking of you. This too shall pass. Baths, and cleaning closets are two of my go-tos. I don’t know how many bags of Dove chocolates I single-handedly devoured the last six weeks of my mom’s life. I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself.
Thanks, Christine. You had so much to handle with your parents and you made it through it so gracefully. You really were able to embrace the calm and do what needed to be done. Dove Chocolates should be on everyone’s shopping list. Thanks for stopping by.
One more suggestion: Get a massage. Either from a professional or your hubbie!
Also, I had a boyfriend once who said “When you’re feeling down and out, get down on the floor and clean it!” Works every time…. 🙂
I am not a massage person (other than hubby massages) but cleaning is such a great way to work out the stress, isn’t it? Thanks for the suggestions.
January is a tough month. Especially when you are already feeling overwhelmed. I walk a lot and remind myself to be present and think powerful and good thoughts. And as you mentioned I’ know from past experience that I have the strength to weather the storm as I move towards the rainbows, baby goats and Chocolate!!!
Baby goats! YES!
I agree- cleaning always works for me. Also humming hymns! God Bless you, Beth Ann!
Perfect suggestion as well! I am getting so many great ones! I think the hymn singing is a great idea. I generally turn on contemporary Christian music LOUD and sing along. 🙂
Every single items on this list rings true. The challenge is to implement some of them and to believe. Thank you for being such a positive, loving and supportive friend to me.
Now, I need to buy some dark chocolate.
Dark chocolate rocks. I agree 100% that the challenge is to implement and believe. It is not always easy but there is always hope that tomorrow will be better.
Dittos Marci B…I like both of those tips!
Agreed! They are good additions.
It’s funny how we have to be reminded of our own advice, but we do. These all work as I have tried them. I hope things settle down for you soon. Sending hugs. (I guess hugs could be added to the list, giving and receiving) xo
Hugs are an absolutely perfect thing to add to the list. Thank you so much! I just got yours!
Thank you for sharing this Beth. I often wonder how you seem to stay so calm and positive through tough situations. I appreciate you sharing your techniques. Life moves so fast, I want to take advantage of every moment. Love you!
Well I am not ALWAYS calm. Like when there is a huge man eating spider in the shower. 🙂 But yes–I do try to remember that tomorrow will be better in some way and that there are ways to get through things. Even professional folks can help through counseling, etc. There is no one answer but these are simple things to try. Love you!
I don’t think this advise will ever get old. There are always situations and days that will call for calm and relaxation… or distraction, whichever works at any given time. I myself love a soak in a bubble bath. 🙂
Thanks, Susi. You are right about it not growing old. Bubble baths are the best.