o·ver·look
verb
past tense: overlooked; past participle: overlooked
/ˌōvərˈlo͝ok/
- 1. fail to notice (something).”he seems to have overlooked one important fact”
Have you ever felt overlooked?
It makes you feel small and insignificant.
It makes you feel less than.
I try really, really hard to not overlook people. Really hard.
So when I realize that I have it gets to me. I overreact and bend over backwards to right the wrong.
Sometimes that works but sometimes it doesn’t and those, my friends, are the times when I just feel horrible.
I have to move on and know that I have done all that I can do but it still niggles at me because I know how it feels to be overlooked. I have been many times and my sensitive self always takes it to another level. I am silly about things like that sometimes. The thing is I know I am being ridiculous at times. I can only do what I can do. I can apologize and move on.
Sometimes that moving on is just as important as the apology. In many situations it is so important to just accept that a mistake was made and move on.
How are you at moving on? I’m discovering I am not great at it. You would think that by this age I would be but I still need more work in that area. If you have any suggestions I would love to hear them. Leave me a comment and Comment for a Cause for Muddy Sneakers.
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Leave a comment“Overlook” can also be helpful or positive- as in overlooking a mistake that someone made or overlooking your child’s behavior because you know they are tired. I’m sure everyone loves you the way you are! You always give us interesting things to ponder.
I just obsess about things like this! It just bugs me when I hurt someone’s feelings!
I wish I knew the answer. I worry over these things as well and so far have not been able to figure out a way to just let it go when there’s no other way to make it better.
It is because you care so much that “overlooking” bothers you. I get it. But, you, my friend, understand your flaws (we all have them) and do your best to build on “mistakes.” You are a kind, caring and compassionate soul who has blessed many.
I too have trouble moving on from things. Still working in it and I am about 20 years old than you, Beth Ann. You’re doing fine.
Perennial source of tension because introverts often *want* to be overlooked.
“I don’t want to be seen in these sweaty clothes but there’s no time to change. I’ll just run out to the store before they close and avoid eye contact, and no one will notice me.”
“Hey! Hey! It’s ME! Don’t you remember me? We met once twenty years ago! Well I remember YOU! You were…Genevieve McGillicuddy! WEREN’T you?!”
Ick. Just overlook me, please.