So today I committed a faux pas. A social blunder I tried to make it right, I really did. I apologized. Profusely. Left and right. Up and down. Sideways and whatever is the opposite of sideways. Funny thing is the other person did not accept my apology. He grunted. Which made me mad. If I had the decency to try to make it right and apologize three times for my transgression I expected some civility in response. But no. This individual definitely had taken his grumpy pills today and my only response was a glare, a grunt and then a head down in the paper. So I did the mature thing and told him I hoped his day was better now that I was leaving. Yea, not so mature.
It got me to thinking about apologies and forgiveness which maybe was what the whole incident was supposed to do in the first place. After all I need more fodder for my blog and book. So even though this whole exchange has literally bugged me all day I am thinking that there is a reason it bugged me. Maybe I should examine my own life and see if there are areas that I have not accepted an apology.
Nope. That didn’t take long. I am the Queen of Giving Someone the Benefit of the Doubt. The Queen of Second Chances. Queen of Believing the Best in Everyone. I forgive mostly everything and everybody. Yes, I still have a few unresolved feelings about a business partner who hurt us and the renters who stole from us but those are the two things that come to mind that I need to work on more of the forgiveness thing. But all in all I forgive and my life has not really required a lot of that.
So I am wondering—-do others find it difficult to accept an apology???? Is it the gravity of the situation that determines if that apology is accepted or not? Are there levels of forgiveness for you? What would be THE one unforgivable thing???? I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave me a comment and let me know. Poll your friends. The more the merrier. Just let me know. Is it harder to forgive than to ask for forgiveness? Tell me what you think. In the words of Frasier Crane….”I’m listening”.