When I was little my dream was to be a nurse. Dressed all in white with that cute perky little hat sitting on top of my head–that was the picture I had in my mind. I think my dream job originated from being in the hospital when I was very young with pneumonia. I think it is probably my earliest memory. I was around 2, according to my parents, and I was a pretty sick little girl. I remember waking up in a crib, wearing my little hospital gown with baby chicks on it, crying because my daddy was not there. A nice nurse came in and told me that he had to go home to sleep and be with the rest of the family but he would be back and I needed to go to sleep. I remember the music playing was the theme to A Summer Place. Whenever I hear that song it takes me back to that event in my very early life.
Just one problem with my dream job. A very big problem when it all comes down to it. I can’t stand the sight of blood. To the point where I faint. Seriously. It is ridiculous. One time I dropped the razor in the shower. I stepped on the razor and cut my toe. All I could see in my non-contacted-eyed state was a stream of red swirling down the drain. I got out of the shower and laid on the floor. The hubby who was still in bed came in because he heard some commotion in the bathroom. I told him I cut myself. He examined my toe. He laughed at me. Yes, he laughed at me!!! Evidentially it was a microscopic cut that he could not even find . He gave me a towel and left me lying on the floor. Sympathetic, huh? I recovered and have lived to write about it. So obviously I learned early on that me + blood = disaster. Fortunately even though I birthed two boys they were not into huge bloody incidents—a few broken bones along the way but I was spared the gushing blood events for the most part. Good thing. They would have been on their own for that.
So what else does someone who has the dream of helping others pursue when choice one evaporates?? Social work, of course. That is what I am trained for. Is it what I have done? Well, not for money. I have never worked in an actual social work job. I have volunteered in social work settings over the years but never actually pulled a paycheck in from any social work adventures. I have done a lot of free social work over the years when it comes down to it. It is just who I am. That need to help others is ingrained in me. It is part of my DNA.
My dream job quickly morphed from finding that dream paying job to being a stay at home mom. Not everyone is cut out for it. Not everyone can financially afford to do it. Not everyone wants it. But I did and I was blessed to be able to do it. I loved being there for the boys 24/7. I loved being the home that the other kids came to. I love the relationship that I have with our boys. It is strong and something to be proud of. Would I have had it if I had worked fulltime when they were younger—maybe so—but maybe not. I honestly think not. I love being “mom” to some of their friends even now. It is the best gig I could ever have wanted.
Other jobs came and went over the years—substitute teaching, helping out the hubby at the family business, secretary at a great church and the last adventure was being in charge of small groups and outreach projects which was the most fulfilling of my outside the home jobs. I loved it. The time was right for it and it stretched me and grew me into a more confident person. But now the road I travel is one of no employment by choice and the opportunity to be available to family . My social work continues in a different ways. The perfect dream job??? For me it has evolved. For each stage of my life it has been different. Today I embrace it and accept what it is for the moment. I am happy and content in my role .
As long as there is no blood involved.
What is YOUR dream job?
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Good for you, Beth Ann, following your chosen path and getting so many positives out of it. My sister used to be as blood-phobic/squeamish as you – she’d faint visiting people in hospital. But following redundancy, she changed career path completely and became a home-carer for people recently discharged from hospital. Now she changes dressings, bathes post-op wounds, bathes, showers and carries out other caring duties that might turn the strongest stomach – and she absolutely loves it. So, who knows – never say never 🙂
I did my dream job for 36 years – I was a primary school teacher and now I do my other dream jobs of writer – oh, and being a grandma of course.
I love your dream job! I think that being a primary school teacher is so very important and you were truly a part of shaping so many lives. That is an amazing job and one that I am sure you took very seriously. I agree–never say never. I have done some things in my life that I never thought I would so it just goes to show you that you just have to live at day with purpose and open to the possibilities, right? My dream job of being a grandma is still in the future but one day!!!
I find it amazing that you can remember something from age two. My first memory is from age four, also from a hospital stay. I had surgery to correct crossed eyes.
Anyway, social work is the perfect fit for you given your deep compassion and care for others. You excel at that. It is your God-given gift.
It must have been because it was so traumatic, Audrey! Other wise my memory is shot. Like last night when I thought I had left my Kindle back at the house at Dothan and then woke up this morning and remembered I had taken it out when we got to the condo and put it on top of my laptop on the table in the living room. Sigh.
Yes, she’s my counselor, and dboy do I need her!
Haha! I don’t think I am quite done with you yet, Ann!
Well, when I was really little I wanted to be a nurse, but my reasoning was “so I can go to work with my mommy!” SOOOO glad I didn’t travel down that path! My big girl dream job has always been an interior designer for people on a budget! I’d still love to consult, etc! *sigh*
I love that you wanted to do with mom! Perfect reasoning!
An aversion to blood is not usually something that inhances a nursing career..lol
Oops, make that “enhances” a nursing career. Where is spell check when you need it?
It is never there when I need it either, Jake! just the autocorrect that corrects what I write into the wrong word!
I always wanted to be a Mom and a Farmer and I guess dreams can really come true because that is what I’m doing! I feel so fortunate and humbled to be doing both.
In high school senior book I wrote down that my career ambitions were to do PR works for an agriculture group like the Iowa Pork Producers or the Iowa Soybean Association. And what did I do after graduating from college – did PR work for the Iowa Soybean Association. No joke! Maybe I should play the lottery more…
You rock your jobs as Mom and Farmer without a doubt. I love that you did the job you wanted to do after college as well. You are living proof that you can make dreams come true. Thanks for stopping by!!!!
Like you, I can´t deal with the sight of blood. Even talking about it makes me squeamish. I always wanted to be a teacher. When I was little, my older and much larger cousins and I would play school and I would be the teacher. Well, life got in the way and I didn´t become a teacher but had some terrific jobs. Then when I turned 50, I took a 2 year correspondence course while working full time and got a Teaching English as a Second Language Certificate. Later I got a job as an ESL instructor and tutor. I loved that job. Later I facilitated job search work shops and was called an adult educator. So eventually my dream did come true. I consider myself very lucky.
You have had quite an interesting career path. I love hearing how everyone finds their perfect job and the steps it takes to get there! Thanks for sharing.
Wow that’s quite a story. My dream job has always been either have my own business or be a sign language interpreter for the deaf. I my hope is my new website will become my business. 😉
I hope your new website helps you find that perfect career as well! I think it just might go that way!
Thank you soo much Beth Ann! I’m excited about it. Thank you also for saying you think it might go that way. I take that to heart!
I do think that. You have a heart for it and that is a big part of success!
Thank you and I know God poured out the ideas in me for this. I hope it’s a lot of fun for everyone. 🙂
According to my memory book from when i was a child, I wanted to be a teacher or a trapeze girl. I think the trapeze girl idea came from the TV show “Circus of the Stars.” I remember watching that thinking I wanted to be like them.
And teacher? Well, that never materialized either. The thought of being in charge of a roomful of children kinda freaked me out.
Trapeze girl is AWESOME! I love it. Let’s see you live that one out!
In High School I wanted to be a secratery and by the time I went to college I new I wanted to be a teacher and I was happy working with children..
You found the perfect career and touched many lives over the years. WE need great teachers like you.
One of my favorite songs was A Summer place and yes, I watched that movie lots of times. My dream job was to be a flight attendant, until I found out I was too short! During my high school years I volunteered at the largest hospital in Ft. Worth at the time, so seriously considered nursing. Started night school while I began my career in government work, and before I knew it, I retired after 34 years of working with government! Now, I love my gardening and sewing…favorite things to do beside my hubby, as we just celebrated our 34th wedding anniversary.
You definitely found the perfect thing since you retired after 34 years! That is awesome! Gardening and sewing are winners and congrats on the 34th anniversary. Mr. Diamond and I are coming up on 33 this year!
When I was little I can recall father lying beside me on the living room floor and reading the Sunday comics to me. When I was little I wanted to be a cartoonist and draw such pictures. Seems I will never make a living at it but I have my blog and people like you who follow, so I think I came fairly close.
I think you are using that creativity in a great way, Carl! I love that you have those memories of your dad lying on the floor next to you.
I still want to be a cartoon character when I grow up. I did get a taste of that an I love what I do now. I think you’re an excellent mom. 🙂
I wanted to be a stewardess. Here in Canada, all stewardesses need to be bilingual – French & English, so even though I hated studying French I kept up my French studies right to the end of high school. Unfortunately, the year I graduated from high school there was a 3 year waiting list to even interview for a stewardess job. Since I had taken typing & beginner accounting as electives at school “just in case” I fell into office work which turned out to be my lifelong career. When I went back to University at night in my 20’s I took Psychology & Sociology because I couldn’t decide between the them. For my science requirement I accidentally signed up the most difficult course where we had to dissect cats, cow’s eyes, etc. – Anatomy & Physiology. I learned so much about the human body! I learned I have no trouble with blood or guts. Now I seem to be my family’s unofficial physician. Hahahahahaha!
It’s good to have those skills!