Just as my 60th birthday was celebrated during a pandemic so will Mother’s Day 2020. I am trying to not take it personally . In the big scheme of things it isn’t that big of a deal for me but I hate that I still won’t be able to see my sweet mom.
Several of my readers have asked how she is doing and the good news is she has been tested and is negative for COVID – 19 for which I am very grateful. The not so great news is that the virus is everywhere at Copeland Oaks specifically Crandall Medical Center where she lives and they have had four deaths. Despite all of their precautions and safety measures it has crept in. At one point we were told that no mail was going to be delivered from the local post office. Then that was retracted. I sent a Mother’s Day card and someday she might get that. At least I sent one.
But I am so not alone in my wishing I could see my mom on Sunday. There are so many who are in this same situation or worse and I keep reminding myself that I am very blessed to have my mom still around when so many of my friends can no longer say that. So I will focus on that and be grateful.
It has been our tradition for so many years to get take out chicken and go on a picnic on Mother’s Day. This year it will look a bit different as we are still scouting a place that we can go safely to enjoy that tradition. Of course it will be without the boys but I am sure we will Zoom sometime on Sunday.
Having a mother who has dementia is difficult. Having a pandemic on top of it which prevents me from visiting her makes it even more difficult. One of my friends stated that this could be her own mom’s last Mother’s Day and it made me sad thinking that we just never know. I can not even start to think about that with my own mom and that I have no idea when it will be safe enough to go see her. I can’t see that happening for a very long time.
So if you are one who is fortunate enough to be sheltering in place at home with your mom please give her an extra hug and tell her it is from me. I just want to give a hug to a mom – any mom at this point.
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Leave a commentBeth Ann, this sucks and I’m so sorry it does! Hearts and Hugs!
Thanks, Katybeth. It is a club with many members who don’t want to be a part of it. I know she is being taken care of but it is still so hard to know that the timeframe to safely go see her is getting stretched farther and farther out.
I feel for you. I am also missing my mom and no one can visit her so we can Skype. The staff are trying to do something but they are so busy. I feel so bad that she can’t have visitors. She must wonder why no one is coming to see her. But I also appreciate all the precautions being taken. It’s a tough time. Happy Mother’s Day however you spend it!! xo
There are so many of us who share the same story. We have not Skyped with my mom mainly because I think she would be so confused about it. We have gotten pictures and they have been updating their Facebook page with videos so we catch glimpses of her there but honestly —they are so busy that I have tried not to be a nuisance . My sister is the point of contact so she gets all the communication and passes it on to the rest of us which we so appreciate. It is definitely not an easy time. Thinking of your sweet mom as well.
Happy Mother’s Day! I keep thinking of you and your Mom.
This breaks my heart. I am one of the fortunate ones that get to see my Mom. Our church will be opening the doors on Mothers day. I will see her their just like every Sunday. Then I will be cooking her a dinner afterwards. It is definitely gonna have a different feel though.
Hope your Mom gets her card in time and hope you enjoy your day somehow. Prayers for you and your mom!
Lisa
Hey Beth you can come hug my mom!! She would love it!!
Beth Ann, our feelings and thoughts today match. I empathize with you. I miss my mom. It hurts, doesn’t it? And, like you, technology won’t work to communicate with a mom dealing with dementia. But I agree that we need to be thankful we still at least have our moms. My mother-in-law passed 26 years ago at the age of 59, which was way too young for Randy to lose his mama. Happy Mother’s Day, Beth Ann, and enjoy your chicken! Love you!
Beth Ann, I’m so sorry you won’t get to celebrate Mom’s Day with your mom. This pandemic has really turned things upside down, hasn’t it? I know I’m blessed to have mom right here with me, despite our getting on each other’s nerves at time! However, I won’t be able to see Domer — he hasn’t been home since Christmas — nor can I visit with my only sister. Bummer, all around!
I hope you’ll be able to see your mom and boys soon. This is a trying time for everyone.
Wishing you a very Happy Mother’s Day!!!
Happy Mother’s Day. It will be extra sweet for her to receive your card when the mail is delivered again. Hugs.
Sending you hugs & love, Beth Ann. I know it is so hard to not be able to see your beautiful Mom. My sweet Mama is in Heaven but she is always in my heart. Praying soon you will be able to visit your Mom. <3
My heart hurts for you but hopefully this will all end soon,. That’s what I keep praying for. Mother’s Day is always bittersweet for me. I’m thankful to be a mother to three wonderful grown-up children but I always miss both my mother and my mother-in-law this month because not only is it Mother’s Day, but both of their birthdays were in May as well. They’ve been gone for over 20 years now yet I still miss them.
I liked the photo of you and your sons. Very sweet. Happy Mothers day
Happy Early Mother’s Day! I’m glad your mom is ok and that they’re taking such good care of her.