It’s been a week of appointments. Whew. Dentist. Hair cut. Eye doctor. If your area is like where we live, if you get an appointment for something you try your darnedest to keep that appointment because scheduling them is somewhat of an accomplishment. Most places it is at least a six month wait for a regular appointment or more. So I found myself running around a great deal this week. Going from one appointment to another and from one meeting to another. But I am happy that that is done for now.
At the eye doctor today I could not help but reflect upon the last time I took my mom to her eye appointment. She was using a walker by then (reluctantly) and was in the beginnings of dementia. I had taken her before so I knew where to go and the doctor and all of that so that helped but it is always a bit daunting to be in charge of someone else’s care.
She was a little confused about why we were there but I reassured her that they just needed to check her eyes and make sure that her glasses were still doing what she needed them to do to be able to see well. I don’t think she really needed them that badly at that point post cataract surgery, but she had a low prescription and she always wore glasses so I suspect it would be difficult to not wear them.
When they examined her eyes she fretted. She couldn’t’ see all of those letters and numbers and she apologized relentlessly for not being able to answer. I tried to reassure her that she wasn’t failing anything – it was how they had to do the exam to find out how her eyesight actually was. I think the staff figured it out but it was stressful for her and it made me feel that I had not prepared her well enough but I don’t think I could have done anything differently.
When I was trying my hardest to see those darn tiny letters the other day all of that came flooding back to me and I had a kind of sad moment remembering that another Mother’s Day is approaching that I will not be able to celebrate with her. But the thing that makes me happy is knowing that our Comments for a Cause this month honors her with with donation to her beloved Copeland Oaks Library.
If you still have your momma around give her a hug for me and let her know how much she is loved. Precious time.
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I love and appreciate Mother’s Day, but I also can see that it is a sad time for many. Happy Mother’s Day to you, you’re a Mom and a Grandma!
Oh, my goodness… this melts my heart. I know how much you loved your mama. I also know how scary—and frustrating—an eye exam can be. I can only imagine her anxiety during her appointment…and you trying to fend off tears during your appointment, and see those darned letters. Big hugs and much love to you!
How proud your mom must be, looking down on her BethAnn doing so much for her community. The kind of passion that you show to others, certainly represents the values that your parents instilled in you.
Thank you for letting me be a small part of your journey.
Happy Mother’s Day my dear friend.
God bless you today and always. Happy Mother’s day to our Mother’s on earth and in heaven.
Sending much love your way this Mother’s Day! ❤️
Awwwww, love this picture of your mom! I imagine she’ll be celebrating with family and friends up there, and waiting patiently till she gets you at her dinner table again.
I love your Mom’s smile. It’s been 50 years sense I was able to spend Mother’s Day with Mama, but I always have my precious memories. Wishing you a Happy & Blessed Mother’s Day.
That’s a long time but I know she is happily smiling down at you and the special person you are!
Many of us will be thinking of our absent Moms on Sunday, but we will also be thinking of all the wonderful memories. 💖
What a beautiful picture of your Mom !
Thanks- it was a special day!
I had a bit of a hard start to the week and was reminded by a friend who lost her mom a month ago that we’re allowed to have bad days and it’s ok to cry! We don’t want anyone to lose their mom… but it’s good to know we’re not alone when we do.
Yours is so fresh— that first year is so difficult but there are a lot of us in the club to Hild each other up. Hugs.
What a precious photo of your mom. My mom almost made it to 90, just months shy. Her birthday is May 24. Hugs to you as you miss your mom. I understand.